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Sweaty selfie after my daily workout I believe wholeheartedly that movement is medicine.  Whatever ails me, I always feel better after a workout. I can honestly say I never regret exercising.  Working out makes me a better wife, mom, friend, daughter, sister, therapist, and citizen of the world.  I show up kinder and more present for others, and I’m better able to handle all that life throws at me with less reactivity.  There is a feeling of empowerment I get from lifting hea

It’s commonly believed that when people enter the legal divorce process, they have come to accept the reality that divorce is inevitable. Even therapists and lawyers tend to assume that once divorce papers are filed, ambivalence about divorcing is over and the only task ahead is to help couples have a constructive end to their marriage.  Recent research shows that these assumptions are not founded.  In fact, many divorcing people aren’t sure they want their marriage has to en

People usually keep doubts about their marriage to themselves. Here we’re not talking about ordinary concerns about the relationship or even feeling in a stuck pattern—instead, we’re talking about worries about whether the marriage will survive. This is scary to think about. If you tell others, you might get unhelpful suggestions such as “just listen to your inner voice” or “make a pros and cons list”! The doubts stay underground, coming and going, sometimes for years. Marita

Choosing the right therapist can feel overwhelming, especially when you are navigating your healing journey. With so many options available, how do you know which professional will best support your needs? This guide aims to simplify the process, providing you with practical steps to find a therapist who aligns with your goals and values. Understanding Your Needs Before you start searching for a therapist, take some time to reflect on your personal needs. Consider the followi

Once upon a time when divorce was rare, most people were driven to divorce by one of the “Triple A” problems: Affairs, Addictions, or Abuse. Divorce meant someone was chronically cheating, repeatedly drunk, or physically violent.Desertion was the fourth reason for divorce in 19th century America when husbands would go west and disappear. Affairs, addictions, and abuse are what I call the “hard” reasons for divorce because they represent dysfunctional behaviors that impact the